Relationships Can Be Hard

Hello there.

Today I wanted to talk about a very big part of my life. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years now, but our relationship isn’t as simple as a lot of peoples’.

We met in our first year of university. He was living with one of my oldest friends, Becky, that moved away when I was younger. Becky and I had always stayed in contact, so we re-kindled our friendship and became basically inseparable. Since I was spending a lot of time with her, I was also spending a lot of time with my now boyfriend, Mathew (yes, his name is spelt with one ‘t’). We became very good friends and eventually, over the Christmas break, we decided we would give us a try.  From then on, we spent a lot of time together, and when it came to the Easter break, it was very strange. Going from spending so much time together to nothing for two weeks was actually quite hard. Which felt strange, and that’s when I knew that it wouldn’t just be a ‘thing’ between us.
Our first photo together as a couple...n'aw

When it came to summer, we knew that we wouldn’t be able to see each other every week as he is originally from Manchester, and I live in Hull. I think we saw each other around every 2-3 weeks and it wasn’t too hard due to us having similar working patterns. This was along with skyping every couple of days.

This playsuit was my fave and it has BROKEN!!

At the start of our second year at university, we were actually living together. Whenever I told anyone I was living with my boyfriend after getting together 8 months previously, they think it’s a little strange; BUT it wasn’t planned. We had decided to live together along with two other of our friends before Christmas, before we got together. Living together was basically what we were doing during first year anyway, as I spent most of my time with my best friend in the same flat. It was fun, I got to see him whenever I wanted without having to brave the outside world. When he was being annoying (like boys are), or if I just needed my own space, I had my own bedroom too. The best part of living together so soon is that we learnt everything about each other, got to know the others habits and understood them truly and completely. There will obviously still be things that we don’t know about to each other yet, but we only have that to look forward to. I suppose living together early on in our relationship tested the strength of us as a couple. If we couldn’t cope with it for just 9 months, then we weren’t going happen in the long run.

One of my favourite, yet most blurry picture of us ft. Mayo the polar bear

Somehow we did it. We both even said that there aren’t many people you can spend time with 24/7 and not get annoyed with them or a bit bored. But this didn’t happen with us. The most comforting thing for me was having someone there all of the time to talk to if I needed to (well I had 2 people, Mathew and Becky). This helped a lot as I do have anxiety and panic attacks, so I knew I had at least one person there for me just about all of the time. But that’s a story for another day.

Mathew with long hair looks funny lol

After our second year finished, we went our separate ways again, trying to see each other every other week, which was quite easy during summer, as Mat didn’t have a job and I worked weekends. The hardest part came when Mat started his placement. We’re both taking a year out of our studies to get relevant experience to our courses (as are many of my friends at uni). During my year out, which I am currently on, I am getting some voluntary experience whilst still keeping down a part-time job so I am still earning. Whereas Mat has a full-time paid placement in a town not far from Nottingham, which is the same sort of distance from me than Manchester was, so there’s not much difference there. The only problem with this is that as he has a 9-5 job, Monday to Friday, and my job is mainly weekends. 

It has become increasingly hard to be able to plan when we’re going to see each other due to my job, so I am currently looking for something better suited to me and my life.

I must have said something funny...
If I’m really honest though, I wouldn’t change a thing about our relationship. Not seeing each other as much as we’d like to makes the time we do have together more special. I am seeing him this weekend as it his birthday. Seeing each other less also makes it more exciting when we see each other. Right now I cannot contain my excitement, as it has been over three weeks since I saw him last.

No I don’t have the easiest or most normal relationship, but I suppose normal would be boring.

Thanks for reading! Please do leave any comments below if you are also in a long distance relationship, I would love to hear any stories.

Paige xo

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